tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4940532301117802640.post413637160497112990..comments2024-03-14T01:18:38.108-06:00Comments on Smaller Fun Pants: How to stop eating as a knee-jerk reactionHappy Fun Pantshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16764438670187538319noreply@blogger.comBlogger9125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4940532301117802640.post-14313949697475703192011-06-20T13:44:20.875-06:002011-06-20T13:44:20.875-06:00I just have to leave the house, I usually go out t...I just have to leave the house, I usually go out the door and go for a walk (ipod in hand). If I am having a craving or am on the verge of a breakdown and a brownie is my only way out - I leave. I don't know if that is the comfort I'd usually get from the food - but it is away from the situation and the temptations. The walk does relieve stress and releases some endorphins and gets my energy boosted again so I can return to the homefront - crisis eating avoided.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4940532301117802640.post-18013657013821972172011-06-20T06:48:42.032-06:002011-06-20T06:48:42.032-06:00Dammit. Now I want a brownie.Dammit. Now I want a brownie.Laniehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15438241075767655180noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4940532301117802640.post-78666378142458341792011-06-20T06:48:11.914-06:002011-06-20T06:48:11.914-06:00Rocking chair is my go-to comfort these days. Big ...Rocking chair is my go-to comfort these days. Big puffy swivel-recliner rocking chair. Wrapped tight in a blanket helps. Sometimes a big fluffy cat helps, too, but he's often uncooperative. Still, brownies are my favorite.<br /><br />I totally get where you're coming from. I've let go of ever getting my mother to validate my feelings. It's just not going to happen because it's not part of who she is. Because of her denial, she'll never have the opportunities with her grandchild that she could have. I just can't trust her to keep my kid safe.Laniehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15438241075767655180noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4940532301117802640.post-36407728192343888022011-06-12T21:35:51.054-06:002011-06-12T21:35:51.054-06:00Thanks for your post. I often reach out to try and...Thanks for your post. I often reach out to try and find similar stories or success and despair. Recently, I started watching Extreme Makeover: Weight Loss Edition and I think their stories align with yours. Let me know what you think -- it airs Monday nights on ABC at 10pm/9c. Thanks!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4940532301117802640.post-91577240488158664652011-06-10T20:43:10.155-06:002011-06-10T20:43:10.155-06:00Hi! It's Alicia from Texas. I SHOP!! I used...Hi! It's Alicia from Texas. I SHOP!! I used to use food & then I turned to shopping. The shopping has really gotten out of control & so I put myself on a shopping ban for the month of June. I realized I have been eating more as a way to soothe that anxiousness, that unsettled child inside me that just wants her mom (you know my story). I just want to be satisfied & how do we give that to oursleves in a healthy way? I wish I knew. I think we just have to be aware. Hang in there.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4940532301117802640.post-54597866733111502912011-06-09T13:12:48.467-06:002011-06-09T13:12:48.467-06:00I'm not sure my eating is even called 'kne...I'm not sure my eating is even called 'knee jerk.' It's more like breathing (yes, even post-surgery). 94lbs down. But I think the eating post trauma is normal because that's sort of how we are taught. Child crying, toss a cookie. Dentist office visit coupled with trip to Bastard Robbins.<br /><br />Crying is probably a big soother because it's part of the grieving process. You want your mom to feel what you felt and she doesn't get it and she may never get it. So you need to grieve and move through this process so you can get on with your life. Sometimes I realize when I find myself using different methods for imparting knowledge and I'm on my 3rd or 4th attempt I realize that it's really me that needs to "get it" and all I'm doing is driving myself nuts wondering what's wrong with that other person and why they aren't getting it? <br /><br />Do you need me to tell you this in a different way?Levihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07369763028982948026noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4940532301117802640.post-82657260156597313032011-06-08T18:19:01.367-06:002011-06-08T18:19:01.367-06:00Definitely don't start drinking. I did that an...Definitely don't start drinking. I did that and didn't even stop eating. So I gained more weight!<br /><br />Listening to/playing music. I have a piano at home, and if the music on my iPod isn't hitting the spot, then plunking out some Beethoven usually does. I always find I get so distracted by it, or so in touch with my feelings, that I work through it instead of eating.<br /><br />Journaling. I stopped doing it on a blog because I can't share with people without feeling exposed. It's so much more effective for me on paper...more raw. And I can drag it into the therapist's office and read passages to her. That's where most of my work has been, and so quickly the last few months. I am so thankful for it.<br /><br />Walking...not for exercise, but to be outside.<br /><br />I'm sorry your mom just doesn't "get it". It was never your fault. It kind of does seem like there's part of her that doesn't believe it. Or something. I'm sure it's normal in the whole dynamics of family child abuse. I don't know, and I'm sorry.Missyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07961795803297359233noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4940532301117802640.post-6372694216307207732011-06-08T09:22:53.893-06:002011-06-08T09:22:53.893-06:00That's my problem, too... eating when I'm ...That's my problem, too... eating when I'm not even hungry (or when I'm bored, or stressed, or driving, or need to be entertained or home alone). The really disheartening thing about it is that I've actually caught myself doing it and can't seem to rein in my behavior. Very discouraging.<br /><br />However, I like to focus on the positive accomplishments I've managed to achieve. I've said sayanora to a lot of bad habits and I really am making a sincere effort to change the rest of my self-destructive tendencies. I suspect I'll always battle these urges, but I take comfort in the fact that I'm at least aware of what I'm doing... that has to be one of the first steps in making positive and lasting change.<br /><br />Excellent post!Cole Walter Mellonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14792991151019418800noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4940532301117802640.post-8670161871928265692011-06-08T07:40:52.670-06:002011-06-08T07:40:52.670-06:00I'm parking myself in your comments section. ...I'm parking myself in your comments section. I need to know what other people do too. I have to find a different way to soothe and to celebrate. My mind always goes to food.Jamshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07738443161419733382noreply@blogger.com