Wednesday, November 30, 2011

An attempt to update

I’m going to be honest with you…I’m not even aware of where to start.

So many changes have happened in the last few months – each deserving of their own post – and since I haven’t taken the time to write about them, it’s hard for me to figure out how to update you and still write about what’s relevant to you and the content of this blog.

I’ve decided to do things the most efficient way possible:

1) I have a cat. I KNOW! I’m that girl that said she’d never get cats. Only I also am that girl that has a hard time saying no to people that ask for help – especially when it involves animals. In July, I became the owner of Zoe – a 5 pound ball of fluff. She’s sweet, little, and more comforting than I ever thought that cats could be. And yes, I have allergies. Why should that stop me from getting a cat? Clearly it shouldn’t.

2) I’ve started running again with some regularity (meaning not going weeks between runs). Finally. I’ve missed it. I’m slower than I ever thought that I would be…probably has something to do with the extra weight I’m carrying since I was really into it. But you know? We all have to start somewhere….or rather, we all have to start back somewhere.

3) I’ve been dating. Actually, I’ve been dating kind of a lot. This is probably the top reason why posting here has been virtually non-existent. But the dating? It’s been such a fabulous experience!

I think I enjoy it so much more because I know more who I am and what I am looking for. I have a positive sense of self and it makes dating so much easier and so much more fun. Gone are the days/nights where I sit and wonder what he’s thinking and whether or not he’s into me.

It’s like I’m my very own chapter of “He’s Just Not That Into You.”

The guys that show interest and then fade away? I let them. I don’t need to chase them. At the risk of sounding cocky, if they don’t recognize the quality now, then I don’t want them either.

The guys that stop asking questions and showing a strong interest in getting to know me? Forget it! I’m happy to be reciprocating of the intentions that are bestowed upon me. So if they start showing that they’re lacking in things to ask for/about, I’m just fine with also stopping the getting-to-know-you process too.

Bad kissers? Next!

Guys who just want to get in my pants? Of COURSE they do! My pants are fun! But that’s not all that I’m looking for. If they’re not making a serious effort to get to know my mind and not just my body, I feel comfortable with showing them the door. Sometimes, literally.

Dating this way is WAY more fun. And it’s much more linked to healthy lifestyles than I normally would’ve thought. If I’m not having fun, I stop.

And in the end, I’ve gone out with some really great people. It’s been great to get to know several different men and to figure out who meshes with me the best. I also think that it makes me a much more fun date.

The feeling of being pursued, desired, and valued is wonderful.

And I’m freakin’ lovin’ every minute of it.

4) As far as weight…I’ve been losing. It’s so much more fun and it feels easier than what it has been in a long time. I’ll expound more on this later (because hello, isn’t that kind of the point of this blog?), but suffice it to say, things are going well in this department as well.

5) The house: It’s starting to come together. Honestly? I love it more every day. This weekend I’ve got some decorating planned and am super excited to clear some things off my to-do list.

Hopefully with these topics covered – even if just partially – it’ll be easier for me to come here and update more often.