Last night I weighed in at my meeting and I found that I had lost 2.2 pounds!
Mostly, I'm excited because last week was a pretty rough week for me emotionally...and there were many times that I felt lots of different emotions even within the span of an hour.
For starters, I got a really craptastic email from Joe on Monday where I'm not sure he could've been more passive agressive should he have tried. This came in right around the same time that I received a text that brushed off Mr. Wonderful. Those came right after I found out that my boss who drives me bat-crap crazy is now coming into the office full time.
So basically, Monday kind of blew...and even though I tried to make it better, the week just never really recovered. But you know what? When I was sad, I cried. And when I was happy, I laughed. And when I wasn't hungry, I didn't eat.
That's the trend I hope to follow this week... it's so easy to say, but it's so hard to do sometimes.
So, in case there is someone else out there wondering how I did it, I'll share what helped me.
I really just tried to be aware of what I was feeling.
I've heard countless times that people should ask themselves if they're really hungry before eating something. That doesn't work for me. I can't, when faced with a delectable dessert, ask myself if I'm really hungry or (taking it a step further) what I'm really hungry for. It just doesn't work for me. I'm too flooded by saliva to make sane decisions and I usually just dig right in and tell myself that I'll try to figure it out later.
What HAS worked for me is to practice asking myself how I feel. I do it so often that I'm not even aware of me consciously having to think that.
The benefit of this regular check-in is that I'm at least partially aware of how I'm feeling before I start being faced with food.
Sometimes the answer just comes back as "tired." Well, that's great information to know and be aware of...I mean, if faced with a donut and sugar-laden coffee later, I'd probably be overly tempted to consume it. But if I'm aware that I'm tired, it's somehow easier for me to make a logical decision and pass it up.
If the answer comes back that I'm sad, I try to sit with that feeling as long as possible before "doing" something about it. I've felt that a lot this past week - and each time I've done a little something different. I've hugged my cat, I've called friends, I've watched TV, I've journaled, and I've done something nice for somoene else.
I make this distinction, of trying to be aware of my feelings rather than aware if I'm hungry, because for me THAT way is easier. I realize that it's a bit like the proverbial chicken and the egg scenario, but being aware of my feelings BEFORE temptations arise, helps me tend to myself quicker before I'm salivating and struggling with decisions.
This week, I have a lot of stuff going on. Lots of appointments packed into this week and get togethers with friends. Somehow I need to finish my Christmas shopping and maybe even send out Christmas cards.
So I can't promise that I'll track appropriately or even keep around my points target. But I can make a concerted effort to continue what feels right and good...and checking in with myself, being gentle and kind to myself, feels like an excellent Christmas gift.
Tuesday, December 13, 2011
Last night I weighed in at my meeting and I found that I had lost 2.2 pounds!
Wednesday, December 7, 2011
Isn't this a weight loss blog? I thought so. Then let's get to it, shall we?
Monday night, Weight Watchers unveiled it's new and improved plan. And apparently, it meant that the smaller ladies in our group had their points decreased...and I couldn't believe how upset people were (but that's a different rant for a different day).
At any rate, as my leader was talking about the changes, and people were complaining or getting cranky, I had sort of an out-of-body experience.
I realized that I have been sitting in the same seat, making jokes, being supportive, and yet pretty much at the same weight for the last 6 months, give or take a few pounds.
And as I sat there, I realized that if I didn't change something NOTHING (including my weight) was going to change.
The magic isn't in the meetings - it's in the actions.
My weight was down over two pounds each of the last two times I weighed in. And that included the week of Thanksgiving. Where I was at my mom's the whole time. Where there were candy bars, a day where I didn't get out of my fun pants, and fatty foods.
But I lost 2 pounds over Thanksgiving week. How? Well, I ramped up my activity. And I ate when I was hungry and didn't eat when I wasn't.
So this brings me back to my age old dilemma of:
The last time I counted points, religiously, was 6 months ago. Know what I was doing then? LOSING WEIGHT.
The last time I practiced intuitive eating I lost weight.
So pretty much both approaches work. And it's about darn time that I stop trying to force myself into anything.* And THAT is one of the reasons why I really do like the new plan. You can switch from "Simply Filling" (i.e. an intuitive eating type approach) to the points plan daily and vice versa.
So here's what I've decided - at least for this week. I'm going to pay attention to my body and eat foods that are good for me when I'm hungry. And I'll go ahead and count the points to see how it matches up.
Last night, I met up with a good friend for what was supposed to be just drinks and maybe dinner. It turned into an appetizer, a small portion of dinner, and a LOT of beer. But it was exactly what I wanted at the time. I had an awesome time...and after being brushed off by the douche canoe, I enjoyed every moment of it.
This morning, I counted up the points and realized that I used almost all of my weekly points. Eh. That's what they're for, right?
I feel good about the things that I can control and good about the things I can't.
I actually feel at harmony with things in my life...and I know that when I feel at peace, my eating is cleaner and much easier.
The whole health concept...there just might be something to it. :)
*OMG. Seriously? I heart this sentence. It's applicable to every area of my life.
Written by Happy Fun Pants at 9:13 AM
Tuesday, December 6, 2011
Know how people are all, "Give nice guys a chance?"
For the past 15 years, thought I did... but I guess I never really did. The last few months, I've had an opportunity to look back at the guys I've chosen routinely and realized that they've all had some serious issues right from the get go.
The ones I've picked to stay with had issues with intimacy, issues with their moms, issues with their dads, or issues with me. But in all cases, they strummed a chord right on my heart strings - that chord being: "Stay. Help Me. Fix me."
And apparently that chord always works with me.
In truth, it doesn't mean that they weren't nice, but it does mean that they had some red flags.
So each time, when something ended, I found myself inching the door to the possibility of a lasting love a little more closed. I have believed that those dreams - those nice things - weren't for me.
The guys I passed up? They were the nice ones. The guys who treated me the way I should be treated - right from the get go. But the chord that they strummed never seemed melodic to me. I chalked it up to the chemistry not being there and moved on.
Ending the relationship with Joe, was a great time to realize that the problem wasn't with ME. It's with the people I've continually picked. Which, okay, WAS with me. But hopefully you get what I mean.
I took the time to re-calibrate my heart strings. And I realized that the ones that called for help weren't quite as melodic as I had thought. And the ones that offered genuine feelings of happiness and love sounded better than I ever believed.
So this past month, when I had the opportunity to really look love in the eyes, I did.
It started with a wonderful question - something along the lines of "Are you ready, really ready to be in love? Are you ready in your heart and your mind?"
I looked within me, brushed off my newly re-vamped heart strings, and answered, "Yes."
And it was WONDERFUL. The act of falling in love is an amazing feeling. It's fast, it's all consuming, and it feels beautiful. Like my blinders have been ripped off my eyes - and now I could start to see life's full beauty - which includes ME.
I found myself peering through the crack in the door to lasting love. I found myself lured by it's charm. I started to (gasp!) hope. And when my brain tried to tell my heart to slow down, I reminded it that THIS type of story happens to others. Why not me? Why not us? Why not now?
We even said several times that it felt like we were 15 again - to feel like the whole world was ahead of us and that we could figure out anything that came our way.
To me, it felt like the first part of a drop on a roller coaster ride. I was scared, white-knuckling it...until something inside me encouraged me to just let go; to just enjoy it.
And oh, how I enjoyed it. Because that feeling? It's amazing; intoxicating; heart-stoppingly beautiful.
Until it wasn't.
Realistically, I've recounted the weirdness of what happened many times with my friends and they all believe that something is clearly going on with him. And from the stories he told me about some of the girls that he met, they all reacted with similar disbelief when things ended. Judging from the outside looking in, this seems to be his MO.
So, logically, I know it's not me. Or maybe it is. But I know that even if his opinion of me and us changed that quickly, it doesn't have anything to do with me. Yeah, yeah...maybe he got scared...but maybe he was just playing me. Maybe he's just damaged goods with entirely too high of standards. No matter how hard I try, I can't figure out what happened.
Because to me, even if I got weird vibes or mixed messages, I'd want to ride the roller coaster again.
But eesh. It still hurts. Just like the heartbreaks of 15 year olds.
So how is it that I'm more upset about things ending with a man that I haven't known nearly long enough than ones that I've stayed with for entirely too long?
Because my heart strings strummed a song that seemed to be in tune with his (and even I puked in my mouth with how cheesy that sounded). But that tune? It was one of the most amazing things I've felt and heard.
So here I am. Sad, disappointed, and hurt. Maybe this is the rebound relationship effect. Or maybe it's because we really could've made it work.
But I do know this: I need time to repair the damage - to re-tune my heart strings and repair my pride.
So that the next time a nice guy asks if I'm really ready - for love and all the wonders it holds - I'll have the courage to say yes. I'll have the courage to walk through that door, down the aisle, and wherever else that path leads.